Here are some books and websites that I found to be helpful.  I’ve also included books and websites that would be helpful for family/friends of abuse victims.

Please check back.  I’ll update with new links as I find them.

I’m always in research mode, so I’m sure I’ll find more.  If you have any books/websites you’d like to suggest I add to this page, please email them to me at


Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft  (Mr. Bancroft is one of the country’s foremost authorities on domestic violence.)

The Verbally Abusive Man: Can He Change?  by Patricia Evans  (Any book by Patricia Evans would be helpful.)

To Be an Anchor in the Storm by Susan Brewster

Helping Her Get Free by Susan Brewster

Family and Friends’ Guide to Domestic Violence by Elaine Weiss

Helpful websites:

National Domestic Violence Hotline

How to Help and Support the Abused Woman

Speak Out Loud  I’ve spent a lot of time on this site.  So much of what is on this site is what happened to me.  Bubba was a severe psychological abuser.

And for all of you asking, “Why does she stay?”  Here is a page about that.

Threat Assessment by Gavin DeBecker

Mr. Bancroft’s website

Healing and Hope by Mr. Bancroft

Aphrodite Wounded

Pandora’s Aquarium

The Dangers of Boundaries and Getting Healthy

You are not Crazy  (The intro stills gives me the chills.)

Power and Control Wheel

A Message To Women From a Man: You Are Not “Crazy”  A blog post about gaslighting.

Call Me Crazy:  The Subtle Power of Gaslighting  A blog post about gaslighting.  

Purity Culture is Rape Culture – An article explaining that rape is NOT about sex, but about power and control.

Leslie Morgan Steiner discusses why women stay in abusive situations.  It is amazing how much we all have in common.

RAINN – Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network


*PLEASE NOTE* if you visit any of these websites, clear you cookies and browsing history if you use a computer that your partner has access to.



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