Category Archives: Sexual Abuse

The Duggars – My Thoughts

I’ve debated long and hard whether I wanted to touch this story.  For me, it’s brought up a ton of old feelings.  Seeing the comments and opinions swirling all over the internet has sometimes had me cheering and sometimes had me wanting to bang my head into a wall. The first thought is about those …

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Triggered!

Treun and I are ridiculously happy these days.  Things are cruising along at a good clip and I will, hopefully, be able to write more soon.  I’m finding that the happier I am, the less time and energy I have to write.  I also think I’m so far into my healing journey that I have …

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Sleep-Over

I was talking to someone at work and he recommended Jim Beam Red Stag.  He said it was really smooth and said that I should give it a try.  I bought some yesterday and mentioned to Treun that I planned on having a drink last night.  He was visiting his son a couple of hours …

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The Meeting

I went to a mom’s group meeting last night.  Usually I greatly enjoy these meetings.  I get to hang out with a bunch of like-minded moms and talk about all things kids, babies, and mothering. Last night, we were sitting around having a great conversation when the topic of sex came up.  One woman said …

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Bad Kissers

“Selfish jerks make awful kissers and bad lovers because they are too selfish and self seeking about it. They are not giving or sharing affection…they are taking it-this equals very very bad kissing and absolutely awful technique.”  My friend, Merida, shared this with another friend as we were discussing the fact that our abusers were …

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The Shit Hit the Fan

Sean and I sneaked out to the laundry room to talk a couple nights ago after the boys went to sleep.  We’d talked previously about our relationship getting complicated and I needed to define what was happening.  I’d spent a lot of time thinking about what I want.  I want to remain friends and I …

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The Neighbor – Childhood Memories

I’m trying to write more about The Sexual Healing Journey and it’s bringing up a lot of resentments for my childhood neighbors, my parents’ friends.  How, how, how could my mom’s friend have stayed with that man who molested me?  It’s been 30 years and they are still together!!!!  Did what he did all those …

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1-2-13 Guest Post by Cantata

Hello, Hope Wears Heels readers, I am a fellow blog follower and friend of Hope and Endellion. I comment occasionally as Cantata, so that is what you can call me here. My story is eerily similar to both of theirs, my ex Bertie read the abuser handbook too. Here is a shortened version of my …

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He Was Sadistic

I’m reading an article about orgasms right now.  As I was writing my last post, I started wondering how often women actually orgasm during sex.  I’ve heard that it isn’t as often as one would think.  From what I’m reading, intercourse only sex rarely produces orgasms.  Usually it is intercourse plus something else that results …

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The Aftermath

WARNING:  This gets graphic too! Luke left Friday morning. Watching him drive away ripped my heart out. I wasn’t ready to let him go yet. I was stunned to discover that I didn’t even have time to be sad at his leaving or to sit and just roll around in the memories of his visit. …

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