Category Archives: Using Children

Where Are My Children?

I talked to Liam the other day.  He wants me to give him permission to purchase something that I’m not entirely comfortable allowing him to purchase.  I told him I needed to think about it and we could talk the next day.  He told me that he wouldn’t be able to because he’d be in …

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Feeling Resentful

I’ve had the children without a break for nine weeks now.  Nine weeks!  Seriously.  It is driving me around the bend.  I’m an Introvert.  I need time to be alone.  Specifically, I need time to be alone in my house.  I need to have time to not be responsible for everything and everyone and I’m …

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Shane’s Hell Breaks Loose

I got a call at 2:25 on Monday from the school.  As soon as I saw the school’s name pop up on my phone I knew it wasn’t anything good they were calling about.  It was the principal.  Shane was in the principal’s office and had lost complete control.  He was raging and destroying the …

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Step-Parents

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the children some day having step-parents.  I’m finding that I don’t like that term.  I don’t know why, it just doesn’t sit well with me. I know that, no matter who I eventually marry (if that ever happens), he will take on the male role model role in …

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Tired and Lonely

Thursday was a bad night.  A very bad night.  I’m just tired – tired of doing the hard work to heal.  And I’m lonely. I want things I can’t have.  I want to be a wife again.  I want to be a partner to someone.  I want to share my life with a man.  I …

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A Eureka Moment Regarding The Family

I had been rereading this article about The Dangers of Boundaries and Getting Healthy and had a large epiphany regarding The Family: I understand what happened.  I understand why it went so wrong, so fast. When I made the decision to leave my marriage and get healthy, I did it with single-minded determination.  There was …

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The Family

After my Family of Origin (FOO) submitted their affidavits and we went to court, the judge assigned us the Guardian Ad Litem (GAL).  I was still reeling from the fact that my family had so profoundly betrayed me when the GAL told me that it would be in the children’s best interest for me to try …

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Single Parenting in Marriage vs. Divorce

Since I’ve been a single mother, I’ve had so many people comment to me, “It has to be SO hard to be a single parent!” Even though I don’t say it out loud, my answer is always, “It’s a thousand times better than being a solo-parent in an abusive marriage!!!” I had almost sole responsibility …

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The Other Woman

The Guardian ad Litem (GAL) said in her report for our second court date that Bubba ultimately would like to reconcile with me but he understood that it was no longer an option.  He told her that I was a good person and mother but something had happened to change me – I wasn’t the …

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The GAL’s Report

When we’d last gone to court, the Guardian ad Litem (GAL) had a report all typed up and she presented her findings to the judge – even though I was not allowed to be in this hearing. I could tell from the tone of her report that she believed Bubba.  He openly admitted to her …

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