Category Archives: Minimizing, Denying, and Blaming

Taking Out the Trash

My lawyer contacted me about a week after school started.  Bubba’s lawyer had sent him a list of possessions that Bubba was demanding to take with him immediately.  Since visitation was coming up and it would be the first time the children would be in Bubba’s new place, he wanted some things. Some of the …

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Fly Away From Here

Yesterday Serenity and I were in the car and a song came on that pulled me back in time. We used to live near an airport; this was when the children were really small. Even though I loved where we lived, I was completely miserable.  I was solo-parenting because Bubba was working about 80 hours …

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Mud-Slinging at it’s Finest

Bubba was very proficient at slinging mud.  He didn’t care who got hit or who got hurt.  He was on a mission.  He’d gotten busted by our children for having all kinds of internet porn on his computer, joining a dating website, and having naked pictures of one of his female Skype friends on his …

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Power and Control Wheel: Minimizing, Denying, and Blaming

  MINIMIZING, DENYING, AND BLAMING: Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously. Saying the abuse didn’t happen. Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior. Saying she caused it. Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously.  A few years before the marriage broke up, Bubba had done something …

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