Category Archives: Male Privilege

The Duggars – My Thoughts

I’ve debated long and hard whether I wanted to touch this story.  For me, it’s brought up a ton of old feelings.  Seeing the comments and opinions swirling all over the internet has sometimes had me cheering and sometimes had me wanting to bang my head into a wall. The first thought is about those …

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My Faith….or Lack Thereof

I’m angry at God right now.  In fact, I’m not on speaking terms with Him at all.  I don’t trust Him and in fact, think He’s actively working against me.  It just seems that every time I think I’m getting something good, it gets yanked away from me. Endellion said this is an ethical problem.  …

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Single Parenting in Marriage vs. Divorce

Since I’ve been a single mother, I’ve had so many people comment to me, “It has to be SO hard to be a single parent!” Even though I don’t say it out loud, my answer is always, “It’s a thousand times better than being a solo-parent in an abusive marriage!!!” I had almost sole responsibility …

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The Happy Place

I found a way to cope with the pain (both mental and physical) of the rapes. Before God saved me, I would fantasize that Bubba was someone else.  I had a laundry list of celebrities I used to fantasize about.  I have a very active imagination and if I close my eyes, I can see …

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Pain

I want to issue a warning about this post.  I am going to be very open and honest about the pain in my life and about how that pain, both mental and physical, followed me into the bedroom. For years and years I lived with chronic pain.  I had headaches about 5 times a week. …

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Fly Away From Here

Yesterday Serenity and I were in the car and a song came on that pulled me back in time. We used to live near an airport; this was when the children were really small. Even though I loved where we lived, I was completely miserable.  I was solo-parenting because Bubba was working about 80 hours …

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Rape – Yes, It Happens in Marriages

About 2 weeks after I realized that Bubba had been raping me, I was able to start counseling at our local domestic violence agency.  My counselor was Liz, an intern.  I met her first at the support group meeting.  It was nice to meet her this way because it wasn’t one-on-one and I got to …

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Power and Control Wheel: Male Privilege

MALE PRIVILEGE: Treating her like a servant: making all the big decisions, acting like the “master of the castle,” being the one to define men’s and women’s roles. Treating her like a servant:  The house and everything in it was my responsibility.  I had sole charge of the children, cooking, cleaning, everything.  He had one …

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