Category Archives: FOO (Family of Origin)

The NFL and Abuse

It’s been awhile since the whole Ray Rice thing came out.  I’ve watched the television reports of what he did to his then girlfriend, now wife, Janay.  I’ve watched countless newscasters and pundits give their opinion on what happened, what should’ve happened, what he should’ve done, what she should’ve done until I want to scream. …

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Holidays are Weird

Holidays are weird. I don’t have my kids with me at every holiday anymore.  They are now split between time with me and time with Bubba.  I get one Christmas, Bubba gets the next.  He gets one Thanksgiving, I get the next. The kids and I have adapted.  We celebrate Christmas on Christmas Day during …

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Movie

Treun and I have a guideline we follow.  We never actually said that this is the way it is, it just kind of happened this way and now we always follow it.  Each time he wants me to watch a shoot-‘em-up action movie with him, he’ll watch a chick flick with me.  It’s a great …

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Communication is Hard!

I’ve been rather miserable.  My conversation with Treun the other day was something that broke my heart.  Thinking that he didn’t want to marry me brought up all kinds of nasty realizations about myself.  First, I realized that I really do NOT know how to communicate in this relationship.  I still have so much baggage …

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Something Wrong With This Wedding Photo

I saw this on Facebook today.  A friend had posted it and so I clicked the link because hey, I want to know what is wrong with that wedding photo.  I’m a need-to-know kind of gal. The first photo is a picture of a bride and groom from the shoulders up.  Nope.  Nothing wrong there. …

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An Even Keel

Celia’s birthday is over and I’m back to being on my even keel.  Life feels normal again.  My Feelings are not taking over my entire being.  I do not feel like a raw nerve any more. I hate certain dates.  They are just hard.  The grief circles around, as grief does, and takes me for …

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Everything Feels Wrong

There are some days that being a Feeler is hard, messy work.  Endellion is a Thinker.  Treun is a Thinker.  Arcadia is a Thinker.  I surround myself with Thinkers.  I’m the lone Feeler and I think there is good reason for that. I sometimes start drowning in my own feelings.  When one thing, one big …

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Last Year vs. This Year

I woke up this morning at 5:30 gasping for breath and shaking with feelings of betrayal, injustice, and righteous anger.  I’d had another dream about Butch and Celia. I was in jail with one of my co-workers and a friend of mine.  Someone outside of our cell was smoking and we were being forced to …

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Body Image

So much has happened to my body in the past month and I’m struggling with things I thought I’d worked through. I have four scars across my belly from the gallbladder surgery and my abs are shot.  Since the doctor used staples the scars each look like four division signs strung together.  I’m not happy …

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I Hate Bad Dreams

Treun and I have the weekend to ourselves since the kids are with Bubba.  We decided to take advantage of this and have his best friend, Neil, and Neil’s girlfriend, June, over for a cook-out. We got up Saturday morning and Treun took me home.  We’d just left his truck at my house Friday night …

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