Category Archives: My Childhood

The Duggars – My Thoughts

I’ve debated long and hard whether I wanted to touch this story.  For me, it’s brought up a ton of old feelings.  Seeing the comments and opinions swirling all over the internet has sometimes had me cheering and sometimes had me wanting to bang my head into a wall. The first thought is about those …

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An Old Memory

Treun and I stopped in to visit Arcadia and Elrick today.  It was just a nice afternoon to stop in to visit friends.  We took the back way back to his place and as we were talking, he mentioned how differently my divorce would’ve gone had my parents supported me.  I told him that even …

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The Storm

I’m in the middle of  a kitchen remodel.  I started the kids stripping wallpaper during the week and they had gotten a great start.  I decided to get to work on Saturday and see how much I could tear through.  I have given myself about a month to get the kitchen finished.  Well, I guess …

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The Neighbor – Childhood Memories

I’m trying to write more about The Sexual Healing Journey and it’s bringing up a lot of resentments for my childhood neighbors, my parents’ friends.  How, how, how could my mom’s friend have stayed with that man who molested me?  It’s been 30 years and they are still together!!!!  Did what he did all those …

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The Aftermath

WARNING:  This gets graphic too! Luke left Friday morning. Watching him drive away ripped my heart out. I wasn’t ready to let him go yet. I was stunned to discover that I didn’t even have time to be sad at his leaving or to sit and just roll around in the memories of his visit. …

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Processing Headaches

I sometimes get headaches when I process things; the same kind I used to get all the time while Bubba and I were still together.  I’m also dreaming again although mostly, I don’t remember them.  I know I’m dreaming though because I’ll wake up with a vague, uneasy feelings and my covers are all over …

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Needs

I have needs.  Right now I’m being overwhelmed with needs.  Liam needs a new winter coat, some long-sleeved shirts, and socks.  Shane needs socks and new glasses.  Serenity needs new clothes.  I need work clothes – all of mine are for summer.  I need Christmas presents for the kids.  I have less than zero money …

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How Did I Get Myself Into This?

“How did I get myself into this?”  was a question that played over and over in my mind in the months after I’d left Bubba.  Exactly how does one find herself in an abusive marriage with a complete inability to recognize it for what it was? The answer started to become clear to me when …

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Comparisons

Endellion and I were talking on the phone yesterday.  She was telling me how her mother only ever saw the bad in her and the good in her sister.  Endellion’s mother was an abuser and viewed her husband the way Bubba viewed me – as the enemy.  Endellion told me that over and over she …

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