Category Archives: At the Beginning – My Story

The Duggars – My Thoughts

I’ve debated long and hard whether I wanted to touch this story.  For me, it’s brought up a ton of old feelings.  Seeing the comments and opinions swirling all over the internet has sometimes had me cheering and sometimes had me wanting to bang my head into a wall. The first thought is about those …

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Too Many Emotions

Today would’ve been our anniversary.  Over two decades we’d have been married had he not chosen to remain an abusive asshole.  Today, I’m angry.  Today, I’m mourning.  Today, I feel a little sick. I think I’ve been so busy for so long just being happy to be free of the nightmare that was being married …

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An Old Memory

Treun and I stopped in to visit Arcadia and Elrick today.  It was just a nice afternoon to stop in to visit friends.  We took the back way back to his place and as we were talking, he mentioned how differently my divorce would’ve gone had my parents supported me.  I told him that even …

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The Storm

I’m in the middle of  a kitchen remodel.  I started the kids stripping wallpaper during the week and they had gotten a great start.  I decided to get to work on Saturday and see how much I could tear through.  I have given myself about a month to get the kitchen finished.  Well, I guess …

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An Old Writing I Found

I was digging around in my computer last night and found the following writing.  It was written at least eight months before The Incident.  I had realized that the FOO was dysfunctional but I was still trying to operate within the confines of the relationship.  I remember becoming increasingly frustrated with the dynamics but not …

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The Meeting

I went to a mom’s group meeting last night.  Usually I greatly enjoy these meetings.  I get to hang out with a bunch of like-minded moms and talk about all things kids, babies, and mothering. Last night, we were sitting around having a great conversation when the topic of sex came up.  One woman said …

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Bad Laws – Part 3

As I was getting ready for my date last night, Endellion and I were on Skype and we both discovered a few more Bad Laws that needed rewriting right away. Our main premise is as follows: Our previous relationships were with assholes, and therefore are not indicative of future relationships. Bad Law #12 – My …

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Ruining Things For Everyone

Over the summer, my friend Hannah introduced me to a friend she’d met at college.  Danielle is 20 years old and going through some rough times right now.  She came out to her family and they, in turn, disowned her.  Her relationship with her girlfriend is really rocky as her girlfriend is verbally abusive to …

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No Counseling!

I read something from a woman who is questioning whether or not she is being emotionally abused by her husband.  The evidence is as clear as the nose on her face that she is but she can’t see it yet.  The abused woman canNOT see that she is abused until she is ready.  This woman …

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The Hospital Incident

I remembered something the other day.  I had to have surgery quite a few years ago.  Shane was just a year old and still nursing frequently.  I knew that the surgery would require me to stay overnight at the hospital.  The doctor would not budge about that no matter how much I protested that I …

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