Category Archives: Second Year Divorced

Preparing for the Ceremony

God and I have been on very shaky terms for quite awhile now.  I’d gotten sucked into Fundamentalist Christianity the last few years of my marriage and when I left, I had to refind my faith away from the dogma I was fed there.  Between the “mature” women in my church, my pastor, and Nancy, …

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The Guest List Diminishes By Two

The last minute plans were all set.  The Mexican restaurant was available to cater on our new date.  The baker also had the day open.  Our rings came in and were even more gorgeous than we thought they’d be.  My bouquet and Treun’s boutonniere arrived.  We had just a few more days until the wedding. …

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The NFL and Abuse

It’s been awhile since the whole Ray Rice thing came out.  I’ve watched the television reports of what he did to his then girlfriend, now wife, Janay.  I’ve watched countless newscasters and pundits give their opinion on what happened, what should’ve happened, what he should’ve done, what she should’ve done until I want to scream. …

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Random Feels

It’s chilly this morning.  I got Shane on the bus and sat down to have a cup of tea.  As I sat down I realized that there is yet another hole in my sweater.  I could feel the tears leap to my eyes.  Another hole.  More unraveling.  Let’s get the sewing kit out and fix …

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Resignation

One of the biggest changes in my life that will happen when I marry Treun is that I will be resigning from my job.  Treun makes enough money to support us and he believes that it is better for me to be home with the kids.  They went from me having always stayed home with …

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Jury Duty….Really?

It was a month until the wedding and I had jury duty.  Really?  The universe just had to throw that at me right then? Treun and I still couldn’t get the guest list under control.  I was so stressed that I was ready to just run away.  We’d seriously started talking about scrapping the whole …

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The Guest List

The guest list is where we hit a snag.  We’d decided that we could have 50 people fit comfortably in the house and backyard.  I don’t have any family to invite so I thought it would be easy.  The thing I wasn’t considering was that with friends and co-workers, I easily went right over my …

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Simple is the Name of the Game

We’ve decided to get married in two months.  It’s going to be an extremely short engagement so we need to get moving on all the planning.  Once we picked our date things started happening quickly. Treun is so easy to work with.  I found a website where I can custom make our invitations.  We’ve decided …

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Dinner Plans and a Surprise

Treun asked us out to dinner.  It was a particularly busy week at work and by Thursday, I didn’t want to go home and cook.  We’d been texting during the day and he asked me if the kids and I just wanted to go out to eat.  I really didn’t think anything of it since …

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A Business Trip…Again

Okay, these business trips are starting to get on my nerves.   Seriously. I’d been making plans with Treun’s daughter-in-law to throw him a surprise party.  Well, he’ll be gone that day so the party is off.  I’m rather bummed about it but I realize that he doesn’t have any control over these things.  When his …

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